As a community based non-profit organization, the Center for Out-Of-Court Divorce provides services for a wide variety of families with children, including families with same-sex parents or never-married couples seeking co-parenting assistance. Our service model requires that both parents consent to work together and engage equally in the process.
The Center for Out-Of-Court Divorce customizes our services in order to meet our families where they are in the process of separation or divorce. Our comprehensive transition support program is for couples ready to develop and initiate plans for their family’s transition.
I joke that I would have paid just the Center just to sit with Judge Hyatt versus having to go to the courthouse. That was worth it in and of itself. As people who are relatively law abiding, the thought of going into the courthouse and sitting in front of the judge just feels terrifying. Being able to come to the Center, sit , have a cup of coffee and talk through things as opposed just splitting things side to side, was incredible. It was just a conversation, and felt like an extension of that same support where they look at your situation for what it is as opposed to being this didactic thing. They listen to the nuance, they see the interactions and they make the best judgments that they can from that. As much as it’s a dreadful day on your calendar, it was what I like to call “the optimal suboptimal.” It was the best that day could have ever gone.
The support group was an incredibly positive experience for both of them, and they definitely felt safe and loved. They looked forward to going every time, there was never a fight, and they were so bummed for it to come to an end. They called it their club, and they really, really liked the gals who lead it.
We have taken several opportunities to bring up the topic of divorce intentionally since they started the support group, and they seem to be at least willing to stay in conversation about this more than they had previously; it was not uncommon for them to just say “I don’t want to talk about it” before, but I find that now they are much more willing to have a conversation and name their feelings.