People come to the Center For Out-Of-Court Divorce (COCD) with a lot of questions and concerns and that’s OK. In fact, we encourage it! The process of separation and divorce can be confusing and intimidating, and there is a lot of misinformation out there.
Here are the facts relating to some of the common myths and misconceptions we’ve been hearing:
- MYTH #1: COCD is a friendly center for friendly divorce, meaning my partner and I have to get along and agree on everything before we come to the Center.
- FACT: We’re prepared to help you work through differences and points of conflict– that’s what we’re here for. You just have to be willing to engage in the process
- MYTH #2: I can get the upper hand if I file or contact the Center first.
- FACT: Filing first does not give one parent an advantage over the other. At COCD, we are a neutral party that approaches decision making with open communication and works to reduce conflict. Our end goal is a future-focused plan that both parents are comfortable with and can agree to follow.
- MYTH #3: If we choose COCD, we can’t use an attorney (or attorneys).
- FACT: One or both of you can consult or be represented by an attorney at any time during this process.
- MYTH #4: COCD determines custody for my kids.
- FACT: We don’t approach this process as a battle for custody. We understand that the primary concern of both parents is the well-being of their children. The Center, through resources such as counseling and mediation, will assist you with developing a comprehensive co-parenting plan that allocates decision making and parenting time in keeping with your children’s best interests.
- MYTH #5: COCD offers divorce services, but doesn’t deliver a final divorce.
- FACT: We handle everything from the initial intake process to the drafting of your legal agreements to the final hearing and delivery of the divorce – which takes place here at our Center.
These common myths and misconceptions about Center For Out-Of-Court Divorce were address by Clinical Director Denise Breinig-Glunz (left) & Attorney Mediator Ellen Weston Squires (right). Visit our FAQ page or contact us to learn more.