Co-parenting is a term that divorcing parents might hear a lot. One of the most common misconceptions we hear is that to be working together as co-parents, you have to like each other and/or agree on every aspect of parenting. This is not the case, nor is it realistic for many divorcing parents. But not seeing eye-to-eye on every aspect of parenting does not mean that divorcing or separating parents can’t be successful co-parents for their children. At COCD, we…
In our first post of this series, we made recommendations for planning and preparing for the holiday season after divorce. In this installment, we’ve offered some tips to help you come out of the holiday season with new traditions and happy memories. Create new rituals. If your children are little, it can help to make a calendar filled with upcoming holiday plans with each parent. Developing new rituals will build excitement and keep everyone focused on the positive. Listen to…
The holiday season is upon us, and if you are experiencing or considering separation or divorce, we know that it can be a difficult and stressful time of year. The first and most important thing you can do is be kind to yourself and recognize that separation and divorce during the holidays is hard. Tips For Co-Parenting After Divorce this Holiday Season These tips are aimed at reducing the stress of co-parenting through the holidays and helping you be intentional…
Are you considering filing for divorce, but your spouse or partner is uncertain that this is the right choice (or vice versa)? This scenario is not as uncommon as you might think. In fact, 30 percent of couples who seek therapy are “mixed-agenda” couples, meaning one is leaning out of the relationship while the other still wishes to save it, according to William J. Doherty Ph.D., professor in the family social science department at the University of Minnesota. What is…
The back-to-school transition can be challenging for any child, and the addition of family changes, such as separation or divorce, can make this time even more stressful. Here are a few things to keep in mind to help your children have a smooth and successful transition into the school year. Share information with your child(ren)’s teachers. Give the teacher a heads up about the separation or divorce so that they can provide support to your child as needed.Sharing this information…
Most people would agree that support groups for adults and children who are dealing with the stress and crisis of separation and divorce is a good thing. The benefits are well known, including: Providing a sounding board Helping to put our own problems in perspective Providing us with a diversity of ideas for problem solving Holding us accountable in accomplishing our goals Providing education and teaching coping strategies related to our stressors Fundamentally reminding us that we are not alone…